IT Factor--Who Has It and Who Doesn't? My next book

 If you have low "It Factor", feeling uncomfortable for little to no reason is common.  We call it "being shy", but I think It Factor is at play here and why "being shy" is impossible to overcome.

If you have low "It Factor", feeling uncomfortable for little to no reason is common.  We call it "being shy", but I think It Factor is at play here and why "being shy" is impossible to overcome.

Have you ever wondered why some people attract the attention of others without even trying, while others go virtually unnoticed through life?

I first noticed this phenomenon in a few virtual reality games I played in the 2002-2010 days.   I saw horribly obnoxious people starting their own groups and in-world clubs and having no trouble attracting members--lots of them.  I even saw those same club leaders verbally and mentally abusing the people who joined their clubs.  Those members would sometimes quit, but almost always came back for more abuse.  I saw that many, many times.

This magnetic draw some people have other others has, in history and literature, gone by many aliases--charisma, charm, magnetic personality, star quality, chemistry, glamour, appeal, attraction...none of those really get to the core of this.

In the real world, I made the same observations that seemed to parallel the virtual reality worlds, and that made me think that I might be on to something real.  I began to discover that this magnetic pull goes far deeper than mere personality or skin-deep charm.  It's even independent of good behavior and attractive appearance.  This ability to lure others into joining and doing anything is almost soul-level deep.

I came up with a name for it.  I call it "It Factor".  And, what exactly is "it"?  I don't know, which is why I call it "it".  The idea of this has galvanized with me so much, I plan on writing a book about it.  In fact, the outline for it is already done and a fair amount of research has also been done.

What's the point in writing a book about this?  I think exposing this phenomenon would help a lot of people who get caught up with certain people and don't know why.  I think writing about 'it factor' would make people more aware of their life choices and also knowing whether or not they, themselves, have 'it factor'.  Perhaps I can eventually come up with a test to determine your 'it factor' level.

If you have low 'it factor', no matter how much you kick and scream, you won't get noticed in life.  Sorry, but that seems to apply to everyone I've noticed with low 'it factor'.  If you have high 'it factor', well, lucky you.  You get things your way without even trying, right?

What are your thoughts?  Pop me a note if you find this interesting.  You may not.  Why?  Because I already know that I have low 'it factor'. I've been mistreated in those online virtual reality games without even trying. 

I've had people hate me who didn't even know me.  THAT'S the power of"It Factor".  One of the first clues of It Factor is if you take a like or a dislike to someone for no logical reason, and this applies even if you haven't even spoken with that person.  Isn’t life weird?